Life changed after married?

Each change in your life can have surprising side effects, be they devastating or making life better. The impact of getting married can be quite different, as always with human beings, but here cultural aspicts also play a key role.

In western culture, it is very common to live together for a couple of years before getting married. I pernonally got married three years after my wife and I started to share an appartment.

It did not changed anything in our daily life, so no big change here.

The change had occured three years earlier. At first, meeting each other was certainly a change in life, and it was the last time we fall in love ;-)

We were still living apart, and after one year, we decided to live together, namely in my flat. This was certainly THE big change for both of us. Even if we already spent couple of days and nights together and learnt to know each other intimately, being together each and every day is something different.

The newly established couple has to find a new balance, and this is all what couplehood is about... and this is not exaclty easy.

If you ask yourself why so many couples end-up in a divorce, you should take a look at their histories.

I have nothing about the romantic idea of getting married three months (weeks ?) after meeting each other, but it sounds somehow risky to me. How can you get a life-time engagement with someone you don't know well ?

I don't know the stats, but I'm ready to bet that the couple life-time is proportional to the common life-time before marriage...